I know that there is a difference between discipline and child abuse. But it seems society draws a very fine line. Society says "don't spank them. Put them in time out. It is better for them." What!?!?!? It seems to me like society has lost it's every-loving mind!
Now, before you freak out on me, let me explain. When I was a kid, there was no thing as time-out. When you did something wrong, you went and picked your own switch from the tree (and it better be a good one cuz if not my parents went and picked one....and you didn't want that), you bent over the end of the couch and got your ass whooped. Nowadays, you even mention that in public and people look at you like you've grown an extra head. Seems people think that if you whoop your kids it might hurt them as an adult. Hmmmmm....I got whooped and I graduated high school, waited till I was grown to have children, went to college and got my bachelors and am working on my masters. I have also been a contributing member of society for the last 16 years. Does it sound like whooping messed me up?
I was in Wal-mart the other day and was waiting in line to get my prescription. I told my boys to sit down and wait. They decided to start acting like Wal-mart became a jungle gym in seconds. I told them "I'm not going to say it again. Sit down, stop acting like this is a park, or I'm going to put my hand on your butt." They stopped. You know why? Because I don't give idol threats. There was this woman in line that said to me "It's about time someone wasn't scared to punish their kids in public." Scared? There are only two things I am scared of...spiders and God. I certainly am not scared to punish my children when they get out of line.
Do I always whoop them? No. For small infractions they get to buy their time back from me by putting their nose on the wall. But for broken rules they get whooped. For not listening they get to go to bed. I'm not going to drag my kid kicking and screaming out of a store because they are out of line. Hell no! I'm gonna put my hand on their butt. I'm not saying I pull their pants down in front of everyone. No. But, they will get a whooping whether they like it or not. I always say that kids act the same way in public as they do at home. I'm not saying my kids are perfect but when we are out they don't act like little fools. They will grow up to be contributing adults because of respect. And that kind of teaching starts with us, the parents.
Stop being afraid parents across the world. They are our children and if we don't teach them what they need to know to enter society as adults then who is going to? Prison?